Your Behavioral Style is Showing Part 4: Steadiness Style
Return to BlogsPublished: August 19, 2010 07:09 AM
In the May issue of this newsletter, I wrote that behavioral style
represent the enthusiasm people have for how they perform activities and interact with others. Behavioral
assessments commonly measure four styles of behavior.
This article describes the “S” or steadiness behavioral style. Your “S”
behavioral style is showing if you are a non‐demonstrative communicator. You will demonstrate you “S”
style if you are comfortable listening to others rather than controlling the conversation. You will
have a tendency to make strong eye contact with the other person which gives them confidence that you
have real interest in what they are talking about. You are likely to ask a probing question to enhance
the other person’s message.
People with the steadiness behavioral style represent the largest
percentage of the population. These people make the wheels turn in commerce and relations. They are
comfortable being in supportive roles and, doing routine work. They often are superior customer
service people because they have an abundant patience. They do not tend to get upset quickly, but they do
have long memories when they have been mistreated. Steady people tend to brush off compliments. The
result is that others stop paying them compliments although compliments are, in fact important to
them.
Many people may say correctly, that they are comfortable doing the
same things that steady people do. However, only the people who begin and end their day being non‐demonstrative
and supportive have the “S” trait as their primary behavioral trait. At one time or
another, all people need to be patient and supportive with those we live and work with. However, only the people
who naturally ask others if they can help , who are willing to do routine tasks that others are
uncomfortable doing have the “S” trait as their primary behavioral motivator.
The steady person brings many gifts to others: for instance, they
become a calming force when there is chaos in the environment at work or at home. They gather information
about conflict and offer alternatives for the solution. They are sensitive to others’ feelings
and tend to ask if they can help them through rough times in their life. The “S” person tends to accept what
others tell them‐ especially their managers.
This leads them to be loyal to the manager and others in the
family and in many other social encounters. If they are given a task to perform and receive correct
information about how to do it, then they will complete the task that way every time they do it. Steady
people will extend themselves to others, sometimes to their own detriment. They build long term
relationships.
Steady people do face several challenges when interrelating with
others. They tend to keep their true feeling to themselves, and then go with the flow, sometimes leaving
others with the mistaken impression that they are comfortable. However, at some point they will
become explosive and catch others off guard. When people give them new information, or directions
they need to be aware that steady people need time to decipher the information and also ask
questions about it.
Often a manager challenges an “S”
employee considerably by quickly changing the priority of a project they are
working on. Steady people do not accept quick changes. They do not accept quick
changes. However, they can accept change when it is preplanned and they have
the opportunity to ask why the change is necessary.
Whatever behavioral style we have, we all need to modify our behaviors
to meet the needs of others. This is especially true for loved ones, those who rely on us, and
those we rely on to assist us in our life and work.
The steady person needs to be prepared for the unexpected. When they
do not understand another person’s message they must be prepared to ask for clarification. They
tend to think they can figure out the message later, which keeps them from being efficient in completing
the tasks. When people live and work together they become aware of the power of motivational
behavioral traits, they understand the behavioral needs the other person has. With coaching and time, people
can begin to celebrate these interpersonal differences and take advantage of them for the good of
everyone.
A good rule, for the “S” behavior person to follow when he or she
needs to persuade an active / outgoing person, is to be prepared to speed up
the pace of your conversation, ask some open ended questions and wait for the
response. Direct people need concise information quickly, while influencing
people like a “how are you doing today” warm up, before getting in to the
business at hand.
When active / outgoing people want to persuade the steady person, they
need to be deliver more details about the topic you are presenting and have the patience to
ask them what questions they have and to wait for their response, which will not come quickly.
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